Triple P – for parents
Is this course for me?
The courses are for every parent, whether you are wanting support with a particular problem with your child or if you just want some new tips. There is no one right way to be a parent but most parents struggle with the same stuff – not enough sleep, finding parenting stressful – so usually as a group, whatever issue you came with, you’ll find people in the same boat as you.
Will I be told what to do?
There is no one right way to be a parent. The course helps you focus on what is going on in your family and then offers practical tips to try out at home to manage problems and to increase the good things that happen. We don’t judge what you do – we offer ideas that have been proven to work with other families.
Some children are more challenging than others and parents generally are trying their very best.
We as trainers know that can often be the case. Triple P has proven that small changes in your behaviour can make a difference in their behaviour. The 8 week group offers up plenty of ideas for you to try.
What do other parents say who have attended a course?
“Triple P has helped so much – you’re not prejudged for being a bad parent …….Children are responding so much better…….its good to know that they can do as asked.”
“The Triple P meetings were liberating. Just to know that you’re not alone, you get the support and confidence to deal with any problems that arise.”
“My confidence of being a mother has gone through the roof.”
“I have built really good relationships with my children and now look forward to everyday.”
The Triple P meetings not only helped me find ways of making family life more enjoyable it also helped me emotionally.”
How do I get on a course?
Please ring Julie or Helen at Safety Net on 01273 411613 or email on triplep@safety-net.org.uk
Some examples of Triple P Strategies.
GIVING ATTENTION
How often have your children approached you to play with them just at the wrong moment – when you are cooking dinner or just about to make a phone call? This is typical and then when we say “in a minute” we feel guilty. Triple P have worked out that small, frequent amounts of time – only 1 or 2 minutes – is just as valuable as longer but less frequent time spent with your children. So what should you do?
- When your child approaches, think to yourself, “Can I give 2 minutes of my time?”
- If you can, stop what you are doing and give your child your full attention
- If you can’t, tell your child when you can
- Make sure you give the two minutes at the time you said you would
Parents report this simple strategy improves the relationship between them and their child
CLEAR CALM INSTRUCTIONS
How often have you, stressed and busy, yelled to your kids in the other room to get themselves ready for school, only to find them still glued to the TV 10 minutes later? Then of course, everyone ends up cross and upset. So why don’t they do as they are told? Triple P thinks that often children don’t follow instructions because of the way they are given. Parents are too far away, or not clear. So try this
- using your child’s name, get close (within arms length) and tell them clearly what you want them to do.
- Now don’t move away! Stay and count to 5 in your head. By this time, most kids will have begun to follow your instruction
- thank them for doing as they are told and move away.
